By Robin of Berkeley
Hello, my name is Robin of Berkeley and I write for American Thinker. I was left but last year turned right, and, if you'd like to know more, you can read Everything You've Ever Wanted to Know About Robin (But Were Afraid to Ask) by clicking on my byline (at American Thinker.)
Thank you for taking the time to read this letter which I've been meaning to pen for a while. I just had a provocative conversation with my editor extraordinaire at AT which has prompted this piece.
He informed me that I'm getting more attention from liberals, though not the venerating kind. Luckily, he spares me the real ugly missives (the main reason, by the way, that I don't post my email address; opening e mails that read, "Hi, I'm looking forward to your tribe being exterminated," would not make my day. I can barely stand the ones that say, "Hello, my name is Niger, and you have just inherited big money from Ethiopia.")
But in this strange new world, more hate mail is a compliment. It means I'm generating more readership; therefore my Homeland Security risk level has gone up from green to orange. I'm no longer just an aging, working stiff in Berkeley, but I'm considered a planetary threat on the level of carbon dioxide.
Most of the nastygrams are in the form of trolls. The concept of "trolling" is news to me, as is everything these days. I have to admit that the idea of people cyberspying and then posting insults is a bit creepy.
But more than this: growing up I loved trolls. Adored them. (For you young un's, trolls were these ugly beige dolls that resembled little cavemen.) I had several, with flaming green and blue and yellow hair, and I carried one everywhere. So the idea of my precious childhood dolls invading my work place is a tad unsettling.
Maybe I should just be grateful because I always wanted to be popular growing up, to be in with the in crowd. But back then, the pay off was more dates not more hate.
So I'm writing to ask a burning question: Why are liberals still so angry? Given that you own almost everything, how come you're not just chilling on the couch, gaming and partying, rather than posting and trolling?
Now, I shouldn't even ask the question given that only last year, I was you. I blew a gasket every time I heard the words "Bush" or "Cheney." But the difference is that my party had lost. Defeated underdogs tend to be all pissy and indignant. How could any of us survive bosses without being able to sit around at lunch and vent about how stupid they all are?
But it's different when the winners are on the attack. If the top dogs go ballistic, all hell can break loose. When the boss spies on you, calls you a c___t, wishes you were dead, and curtails your free speech, well it's time to hightail it out of there.
Some people say this is politics as usual, but I don't think so. I've never witnessed this level of anger from the party in charge. When Clinton was elected, for instance, I was happy as a clam. I really believed in the dude. So I could snooze in the back of the car, not paying much attention to Washington, confident that my beloved (at the time) Democratic Party was in the driver's seat.
My gut tells me that three factors are at work: One is power; that by remaining hypervigilant, like hawk eyed sentries, your movement won't lose a moment of traction.
My second theory is more troubling: that the Left is motivated by revenge, so pissed off about George Bush that many liberals are still foaming at the mouth.
On one level, I get it. Anger releases pent up frustration, and it's an adrenaline rush.
But pretty little Carrie Prejean was trotting off to high school geometry class while Bush was waging war. Sarah Palin was cleaning up Alaska -- which thrilled the liberals at the time -- while Cheney was crafting policy.
That's the problem with revenge; it rarely hurts the true miscreant. Bush, of course, is whacking weeds happily in Crawford, and will rake in the bucks on his memoirs. As the old adage warns "an eye for an eye leaves everybody blind," because revenge only create more destruction and new wreckage.
But the deeper reason for all the animosity is, I think, the indelible and searing power of trauma. We are a traumatized nation. World War II offered some redemption to a country reeling from slavery, the Civil War, WW I, the Great Depression. It produced the "Greatest Generation'" and the pride and honor of defeating fascism.
But Vietnam devastated families all over the country, including my own. I don't know if you're old enough to remember, but people sat transfixed in front of their TV, waiting to see which numbers would be picked. When my brother's number was called, I thought my parents would collapse. When he went off to the front lines of Vietnam, I wasn't sure how we'd all survive.
He did and we did, but he almost died, and our family was never the same. People spit on him when he returned, and his personality went from happy go lucky to bitter.
Many Baby Boomers are still traumatized by the specter of Vietnam and loathe this country and the "older generation" who sent them there. But, though understandable, bitterness makes old wounds fester. Rather than grieve, learn, and move on, we remain mired in the past. And our nation loses something vital: a new older generation who models forgiveness, unity, and national pride.
And then there are more recent traumas: The Gore/Bush election debacle that fostered deep resentments; 9/11, of course, which shattered our illusions of safety and invincibility; and the Iraq War with body bags and national division. Now we have a broken economy that threatens our status as a world power.
Trauma, unacknowledged and unexpressed, ravages not only people, but whole nations, because trauma can harden into aggression. And so the Palestinians kill Israelis, and the Israelis kill Palestinians, and it goes on and on forever, and it will not cease, not with new leaders or new money.
It will never end until we get so sick and tired of it that we scream "Enough," not just at each other but at ourselves; and we stop the war within. We heed Martin Luther King Jr.'s counsel, "You not only refuse to shoot a man, but you refuse to hate him."
And trauma will not stop until we see that there is a deeper, more pernicious reason why we keep fighting each other: that government, any government, whether left or right, likes it that way. The politicos want us battling, and afraid, and inattentive. And at the same time that they're dividing and conquering us, they're raiding the Treasury for themselves and friends like Goldman Sachs.
So we can continue with business as usual, as foot soldiers and serfs for the elite, battling each other for scraps like lab rats in a cage. Or we can declare a truce like a group of British and German soldiers did during W.W. I.
Sick to death of warfare, they announced an armistice for Christmas. Instead of blowing each other's brains out, they drank together and sang Christmas carols; they played football; they exchanged small gifts like chocolate and whisky, and even shared their addresses. They held services where they mourned their dead together and read from the Bible.
For a brief time they became who they really were -- young boys, barely out of their teens, more brothers to each other than the old men who sent them there.
I've discovered as a therapist that human beings are all basically the same. We try to be happy, to avoid suffering, and to carve out a little place for ourselves in this bittersweet world. We crave love and respect and to feel that we matter.
And deep inside of us, in those places we keep hidden, we know the Truth: that our lives are short and fragile, and they hang by a single tattered thread. And in the end, everyone we love and everyone we despise will be gone, including ourselves; and all our joy, and hurt, and hate will pass away with us, for our lives are as fleeting as a brief summer storm.
So I write to you, one struggling, flawed mortal to another. I write as someone who is bone weary of fighting, and afraid of where all this anger will lead. And I am tired of my government manipulating me into hating one group this year, and another the next. And I offer this prospect to you, as articulated by the ancient poet Rumi in the 1200's:
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing
There is a field.
I'll meet you there.
What do you say? Is there really any other alternative?
Alexander McQueen
I was so taken with the other blog by Robin of Berkeley that I couldn't resist posting this one. It's rare that we get a chance to see someone who changes sides, especially a psychotherapist.
1I wonder how she feels about that!
a really good letter,and she is right,why do we actually have so much anger towards one another?why is it that when we do not agree with each other about our favorite candidates do we have to be so nasty,and personally attack each other?like she said''why so much anger?''
2Since this was addressed to liberals, I feel the need to comment. This article claims we shouldn't be angry because we're the "winners" but in many ways that's not true. We haven't won the healthcare debate, for one and that is something to get upset about. Which is why I say it's fine for liberals and conservatives to be mad- just get mad about the issues and not each other. Where I agree with this writer is that we are all human beings and we should treat each other as such, even if we are passionate about the issues themselves. Make sense? Anger towards issues not other people.
3Genesis if we could hold a good debate with out attacks from the liberal side then the anger would dissipate. After years of not even dealing with health care all of a sudden y'all jump up and down and insist NOW NOW NOW! Nothing is instant especially when you can not afford it. We need deal with the economy and job loss, stabilize ourselves and then move to something else. We do not need a POTUS and administration that suffers from extreme ADHD and overblown egos. And followers whose creepy devotion leads to tormenting others and violence.
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"I will marshal all the forces of darkness to hound you to an assisted suicide." - In the Loop
I loved this post. Thank you Ele!
This pretty much describes why I am NOT affiliated with one specific party as I see some rather nasty people on all sides---but they seem to be passionate about specific issues rather than party lines.
When I began to observe this I created my forum called "Taking Liberties" here on TeamSugar. It was my attempt to really figure out what each "side" is really actually taking a stance on. While none of the sub-topics have never garnered many comments, the amount of private messages I have received as a result of them has been astounding. MANY people had no idea what "their" parties stance was on ALL the issues. Because of this I can only imagine that if they had, elections would have taken different paths.
My own stance has been to not pick a party at all--but to support the issues I am passionate about. I see more and more people become like-minded. The traditional "parties" no longer represent all Americans in their entirety. I foresee a end of those lines drawn in the sand....I only hope that in the future as a nation we fall under a new category---socialism.
5Darn...why can't we edit a comment.
Last sentence SHOULD read:
6I foresee a end of those lines drawn in the sand....I only hope that in the future as a nation we DO NOT fall under a new category---socialism.
Hypocrisy is all I can think of when I read the comments wondering why "we can't all just get along"--
both Nancy Pelosi & Hillary Clinton have recently been quoted as encouraging speaking out in past sound bites but currently under Obama, when citizens oppose something as important and costly as this health care nightmare, then they are termed un-American, an angry mob, referred to as hate groups, and on and on..
I am proud to be part of a traditional party and in general, my party represents most of my beliefs but when it doesn't I try to show respect to others who may believe differently. Too much fence sitting & parsing doesn't get it IMO
"A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have".
7Thomas Jefferson
We should all know by now that liberals are for everything except the liberty of the masses.
When it comes to being able to speak out, NO! No way. You cannot. You do, you die [or you get slammed in the press even if you are a private citizen].
8Actually...not being with any one party I have to say...the liberals are acting like three year olds who are mad that not everyone likes their picture they have painted. They are stomping their feet demanding we all admire their work. Then the other parties are pointing fingers back and forth--"it's their fault not ours."
I want to smack all of them and tell them to put a cork in it, take a pill, and get a reality check. Americans are yelling loudly--STOP. Nobody is listening.
I have not heard ONE person happy about this legislation from any party or affiliation. They are trying to stick to party lines of support or lack of--but wavering like wet laundry on a line. They all know this is going to flop. It is only a matter of time. The real question is---is the stain from falling on the ground be permanent? Is it merely dirt or is it paint? It does not matter. A stain is still a stain. Nobody wants it.
9This is an excellent letter and I hope it sparks some honest and heartfelt discussion.
I would resent Alinsky tactics from *any* party.
I am always suspicious of cronyism anywhere from the workplace to the state capitals and DC.
I am always wary when anyone wants a decision in a big hurry, whether it's about dinner or legislation.
I get aggravated when the rules change because the party in charge changes.
Remember all the Bush as Hitler or the Joker posters that didn't seem to offend anyone?
Remember when protest were considered patriotic, just a few months ago?
I would actually have loved to see a good opponent against Bush Jr.
10I am open to voting Democratic or even third party.
But John Kerry? A wealthy, isolated, elitist Europhile?
Whose credibility and loyalty to country were at least plausibly questioned?
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Conservative in exile
Washington and Sacramento: Stealing our children's futures.
Laine...I am almost afraid of who will be in the next election. I have yet to find a candidate I would proudly stand behind. I have written in a candidate for the last four elections....and sadly Reagan can not be raised from the dead at any predictable moment.
11I would love to see everyone talk about the current issues without accusing each other of lying or calling each other names.
12skb, you're right. It has become so much about spin and media reports that it's difficult to ferret out the real story. Now there are reports coming out of town halls being packed with paid supporters found through ads on Craigslist, and opponents being screened out at the door.
Seriously, this is about determining the best possible path for our country, our future, and our children's futures. It's not about who wins a brawl on the playground.
cheeky, trying to find who might be the candidates in 2012 is worth a whole separate discussion. Politics has become such a cesspool that I believe most of the really good potential people would never go into public service. Why would you? You're subject to undue and not always fair scrutiny, and it pays less than top-level private jobs. It's bound to attract people whose psychology makes them power-hungry and/or attention hogs.
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Conservative in exile
Washington and Sacramento: Stealing our children's futures.
I seriously think this legislation needs to be voted on by all Americans NOT those few in legislation. It should be voted on by those it will affect NOT those it won't.
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